Blame Shifters

There is something that I will never understand, why people insist on blaming others for their fuck ups, I know taking responsibility is a hard thing, but sometimes you have to man or woman up and admit you are the one that screwed it up.

I was reading about how to deal with blame shifters, as my boss is the king of blame shifting. I mean if there was an award for it he would win it every year. Honestly, I don’t do well with people who want to project their incompetence on other people, especially me. If you want me to have any modicum of respect for you than you need to accept responsibility for your own actions as well as your inactions.

Blaming others for what you muck up only serves to frustrate them and if that person is anything like me, they will come out swinging.

Last week my boss blamed me because the cost of an airline ticket went up, but get this. When I pulled the flight information gave it to him, he says: “Okay, let me think about it and I’ll let you know tomorrow.’ Alrighty then. Tomorrow comes and I do my due diligence and double-check to make sure the flight is still available and the cost is still the same. Well, well, well lo and behold the flight is still available, but it’s gone up over a $100. I advise him of this and all of sudden it’s my fault because he decided to wait.

Welp. Naw sir. If I’m not mistaken I didn’t tell you to wait and think it over. I asked if you wanted me to book it and you sir made the decision to think it over. As if you’re not going to get reimbursed for it anyway.

And that’s the tip of the proverbial iceberg.

We get in yelling and shouting matches a lot because of his blame shifting ways and I’m not going to be anyone’s scapegoat. Sorry, but you might want to find another pawn for game.

Anyway, as I was reading about blame shifters it was confirmed that they are insecure and that when they feel they don’t have control of a situation they turn around and place the blame on the closest person to them; thereby giving them a false sense of control. They are also afraid of the repercussions that owning up to their part will bring — if any, therefore they shift the blame. Blame shifters apparently haven’t learned how to effectively deal with accepting responsibility. Blame shifters are narcissistic, ego-centric, think they’re flawless or as I like to say — they think their shit don’t stink, and will not under any circumstances let you or anyone else tell them they are at fault.

I deal with this on a daily basis and fight on a daily basis not to wrap my hands around his neck and wring it like a chicken’s. How do these people survive? How have they survived? When will they learn to take responsibility for their actions and/or inactions? How do you keep your sanity when dealing with Blame Shifters?