Just out of curiosity, if you, as a parent or legal guardian, received a letter from your child’s school saying they are not feminine enough how would you react? Would you encourage her to do what makes her happy or that it’s best to go along with society.?
I’m asking because a local girl was sent home with a letter from her private Christian school stating that she should dress and act more like a girl. As a self professed tomboy, I take issue with this. This 8 year old girl who likes to wear her hair short, t-shirts and sneakers and enjoys collecting baseball cards and coins is told she is not feminine enough. The school also stated that she is a disruption because the other kids don’t know if she’s a boy or a girl. If I remember correctly when I was 8 years old, I could care less if you were a boy or a girl.
The letter in part states the following:
You’re probably aware that Christian School is a religious, Bible believing institution providing education in a distinctly Christian environment … We believe that unless Sunnie as well as her family clearly understand that God has made her female and her dress and behavior need to follow suit with her God-ordained identity, that TCS is not the best place for her future education.
At 8 I knew I was a girl, liked being a girl, but I wanted to play with cars and trucks, play football, climb the ropes, and such. I’ll never forget the day one of my day care teachers told me that little girls don’t roll down hills. And, I flat out told her, “but I do because it’s fun” and proceeded up the hill and roll down again. Yep, I was a smart ass even then. I also prefered to wear jeans and sneakers.
As a Chrisitan, I find some of the biggest hypocrites to be Christian. Who shuns an 8 year old just because she doesn’t follow traditional gender roles? Lord knows I didn’t and still don’t. Give me a baseball hat, jeans and t-shirt and you just made a friend. Put a hammer in my hand or put me in front of a heavy weight bag and I’m happy as a lark. Give me a doll and I’ll snap it’s head off (when I was little I had a box of dolls heads), but give me some match box cars and trucks and you won’t hear from me for hours. Put me in a frilly dress and you better run for your life. Don’t get me wrong, I do like to show my feminine side. And yes, I love a good properly styled short hair cut.
I’m sure there’s more to the story, but until then . . .